M
Maya & Sam
Brooklyn → Lisbon
“Our first conversation went on for 11 days.”
We were both burnt out on apps. The prompt about the last book that made us cry pulled an actual answer out of both of us. We met three weeks later. Married last spring.
Services · Memberships · Experiences
Our services
Everything you need to
meet someone worth
meeting.
From curated matches to verified profiles, dating coaches to candlelit member events — EmberDate's services are built to do one thing: get you across the table from someone who actually fits.
4.9 · 28k App Store reviews
500K+ meaningful matches
100% ID verified profiles
Services overview
Six services. One goal.
Every service in the EmberDate suite exists to remove friction between you and a relationship that lasts. Browse the catalogue or jump to any of them below.
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Curated Matchmaking
Up to five hand-picked matches a day, vetted by both our model and an editor. No swipe deck, no chasing volume.
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02
ID Verification & Trust
Every member is government-ID verified. Behavioural moderation runs around the clock. The trust layer is the product.
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03
Conversation Tools
Editorial prompts, voice notes, video calls, and live icebreakers crafted to push past “hey” into something real.
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04
Member Events
Wine tastings, gallery walks, supper clubs, hiking weekends. Curated IRL gatherings in 30+ cities.
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05
Dating Coaching
1:1 sessions with relationship coaches and licensed therapists. Profile reviews, dating strategy, post-date debriefs.
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06
Native Mobile App
iOS and Android apps designed for slow, deliberate use — not infinite scroll. Notifications you actually want.
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How it works
Four steps from signup to a second date.
01
Apply & verify
Tell us about who you are and who you’re looking for. Pass our quick ID verification. The whole thing takes under five minutes.
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02
Meet your matchmaker
A real human reviews your profile alongside our compatibility model and tunes your matches before the first one is sent.
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03
Daily, curated matches
Wake up to up to five thoughtful matches each morning. Each comes with a conversation prompt designed to actually get answered.
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04
Move it offline
When the spark is real, our concierge helps you book the date. Reservation perks at hand-picked venues across 30+ cities.
Membership plans
Pick the level of attention you want.
Every plan includes ID verification, conversation prompts, and our community standards. Upgrade for deeper curation, human matchmaking, and IRL access.
Spark
Free
Forever
Get started, get verified, meet your first matches.
- ID-verified profile
- Up to 3 daily matches
- Editorial conversation prompts
- Block, mute, report — one tap
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Plus
$16
per month
The full curated experience for serious daters.
- Up to 5 daily curated matches
- Voice notes & video calls
- Travel mode & pause anytime
- Reservation perks at partner venues
- Priority Trust & Safety review
- Read receipts (mutual)
Concierge
$280
per month
A dedicated matchmaker plus monthly coaching.
- Everything in Plus
- Dedicated human matchmaker
- Monthly 1:1 coaching call
- Hand-curated date itineraries
- Priority access to member events
- Quarterly profile refresh
Personalised matching
Built around you, not around the algorithm.
Personalisation, on most apps, means “more of what you already swiped on.” Ours means understanding what you actually want and tuning the experience around it.
Sample compatibility breakdown
Values alignment96%
Lifestyle fit88%
Conversation cadence92%
Long-term goals81%
Values-first profiles
Members fill out a depth profile across 28 dimensions — from attachment style to ideal weeknights — not just ‘height and hobbies’.
Dynamic preferences
Your taste evolves; so does your match queue. Soft signals from interactions retune your matches without you ever filling out another form.
Deal-breakers, not deal-makers
Set the few things you genuinely won't budge on (smoking, kids, faith). We respect those absolutely — and stay flexible on everything else.
Travel mode
Heading to Tokyo for two weeks? Switch on Travel mode and meet locals before you land. Match queue auto-resets when you’re home.
Profile editor by humans
Plus and Concierge members get a 30-minute review of their photos and prompts by our editorial team. It's a noticeable difference.
Pause without penalty
Need a breather? Hit pause. Your profile, conversations, and matches sit on ice until you’re ready to come back. No reset, no demotion.
Safety & verification
Trust isn't a feature. It’s the foundation.
Six services, running quietly in the background, so the conversations on the surface can be the kind worth having.
Government-ID verification
Required at signup. We verify against your live selfie and never store the ID. No verification, no profile.
24/7 trust team
Real people on call — trained moderators, not just classifiers — reviewing every flag within four hours.
Photo & bio screening
Every photo and bio is run through automated and human review before going live. Spam, scams, and stolen images don’t make it through.
End-to-end encrypted DMs
Conversations are encrypted in transit and at rest. We don’t read messages. We don’t train on them.
Date Check-In
Tap before a date and EmberDate will check on you afterwards. If anything’s off, escalate to our team or a trusted contact in two taps.
Privacy by default
Photos blurred for non-matches, location fuzzy by city, and a one-tap “hide from work contacts” setting.
Communication features
Tools that make a first message easier to send.
Chat
Conversations that go somewhere
Editorial prompts, voice notes, photo replies, and message scheduling for the ‘not at 2am’ crowd.
- Editorial prompts
- Voice notes
- Photo replies
- Schedule send
Video
Low-pressure video calls
Built into the app. No third-party links, no surprises — both members opt in, both can end at any time.
- In-app video
- Mutual opt-in
- Camera-off audio
- Auto-blur background
Icebreakers
Live icebreakers, written by humans
Daily prompts written by our editorial team, refined by our therapists. Pick one, send one, see what happens.
- Daily prompts
- Themed packs
- Voice prompts
- Couple’s prompts
Today's prompt
If you could relive one ordinary day, which would it be?
Honestly? Last Sunday. Coffee, no plans, my favourite jazz record.
Which record? This is now a vetting question.
Why prompts work
Members who open with a prompt get 3.2x more replies than those who open with “hi”.
We A/B test prompts continuously, retire the ones that fall flat, and write new ones every week. The bar isn't “clever” — it’s “answerable”.
Events & experiences
The best date is the one you already showed up to.
Member stories
What's the service actually worth?
K
Kenji & Priya
Singapore
“The verification gave us permission to be honest.”
Knowing every profile was real changed how I showed up. I stopped curating and just wrote like me. Two years in, that's still how we talk.
R
Rosa & Ines
Madrid
“Five matches a day. Genuinely good ones.”
I deleted three other apps the week I joined. It's the first time I’d actually paid attention to one human at a time in years.
Compatibility & matching
A model audited by humans, not just trained by them.
Our matching system blends three layers: the values you tell us, the behaviours you show us, and the editorial judgment of someone who's read both your profiles.
Match snapshot2 of 5 today
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Ava, 28
Brooklyn · Architect
Compatibility94%
Slow morningsBookstoresItalyLong-term
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Self-reported values
A 28-question depth profile across attachment, lifestyle, faith, and long-term goals. The questions matter; we test every one.
02
Behavioural signals
Time spent reading a profile, prompt quality, response cadence — quiet patterns that say more than a checklist.
03
Editorial review
An editor sanity-checks each match before it’s sent. No machine-only matches reach you.
04
Quarterly model audits
Our compatibility model is reviewed every quarter by an external panel of researchers. The methodology is published openly.
Dating coaching & guidance
A coach in your corner, not in your inbox.
All sessions are with credentialed relationship coaches and licensed therapists on the EmberDate roster. Book one, three, or stay on a monthly retainer.
45 min
Profile Review
$95
A working session on photos, prompts, and the small choices that make a profile feel like a person.
- Photo selection
- Bio rewrite
- Prompt strategy
60 min
Dating Strategy
$160
1:1 with a relationship coach to align how you’re dating with what you actually want from a relationship.
- Goals & values map
- Weekly cadence
- Boundaries & standards
45 min
Post-Date Debrief
$110
Just had a date you can’t read? Talk it through with someone who’s heard a thousand of them.
- Pattern recognition
- Next-step guidance
- Communication scripts
Mobile app
An app you can put down.
Designed for slow, deliberate use. Notifications you actually want. No engagement chase, no streaks, no shame badges.
- Daily curated match drop at 8am local time
- Native iOS & Android apps
- Apple Watch nudges — opt-in
- Background match queue (no app open required)
- Offline reading for prompts
- ‘Quiet hours’ for notifications
- Widget: today’s spark
- Face/Touch ID lock
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Today's spark2/5
A
Ava, 28
Architect
If you could relive one ordinary day, which?
Last Sunday. Coffee, jazz, no plans.
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FAQ
Service questions, answered.
Still have questions? Reach our team at support@emberdate.com. We reply within one business day.
What's the difference between Plus and Concierge?
Plus gets you the full curated app experience — up to 5 daily matches, voice/video calls, travel mode, and partner perks. Concierge adds a dedicated human matchmaker, monthly coaching, and hand-curated date itineraries. Plus is for self-driven daters; Concierge is for daters who want a partner in the process.
Can I cancel anytime?
Yes — from settings, in two taps, no retention gauntlet. Plus members keep access through the end of their billing period; Concierge members can switch back to Plus or Spark with one email.
Are coaching sessions confidential?
Absolutely. Coaching conversations are between you and your coach. We don’t feed coaching content into matching, marketing, or any other system.
Do events cost extra?
Most events are at-cost (you pay the venue directly — usually $40–$90). Plus members get reservation perks; Concierge members receive priority access and a small number of complimentary slots each quarter.
Can I use EmberDate while travelling?
Yes — switch on Travel mode from your profile. You’ll get matches in your destination city for the duration of your trip and your home queue auto-resumes when you’re back.
Is the app available worldwide?
EmberDate is currently live in 30+ cities across Asia-Pacific, Europe, and the Americas. New cities open every quarter — drop us a line if yours isn’t on the list yet.
Become a member
Pick a plan, build your profile, meet someone real.
Three minutes to set up. Your first curated matches arrive tomorrow morning.